Guilty Pleasures

There’s one thing everyone can agree on and that is we all have a guilty pleasure or two. Myself, I have several. And one is watching reality TV, I absolutely love the show 90 Day Fiancé and the whole franchise. Reason being, I’m just so mesmerized at how someone could meet a stranger and fall for them and get married within ninety days! I just can’t wrap my mind around that whole concept. But apparently there are people so desperate for love that they would do something like that.

Personally, I could not and would not. Reason being is how can you possibly trust a man or woman whose face you’ve seen on a computer screen and trust them with your most precious commodity, your heart. These folks are willing to spend their hard-earned money to fly to places like Kenya, India and possibly to the end of the earth all in the name of love.

There’s this one couple on this seasons show, Jenny and Summit, who because of age difference, he’s 36 and she’s 60 his family is against the union number one and so’s hers. They believe she’s being naïve trusting this guy, selling all her possessions and moving to India in hopes that he will marry her, but I gotta tell you folks I don’t see that ever happening. The universe as they say, are not in their favor, not on any level.

Which begs the question, why would anyone in their right mind do this when they know deep down in their heart of hearts that nothing is going to work they way they believe it will. I find myself yelling at the TV screen, ‘Are you insane? He’s never going to marry you! Give up and run while you still can!’ But honestly, I think some people are glutton for punishment and won’t get it not even it the world crashes down around them. Are they really that love starved and rapacious that they can’t see the forest for the trees? IJS That’s it for now, until next time. Where love resides-Taisha

Book Boyfriends

As a female I have my favorite male characters that we girls call ‘bookboyfriends’. Ever since I discovered romance novels at the age of sixteen when my cousin lent me one of her Harlequin romance novels, I have had a bookboyfriend, Whether it was the cowboys from Linda Lael Millers western themed novels or the Scanguard Vampires in Tina Folsom’s books or the Westmoreland brothers and cousins from Brenda Jacksons novels, I have had one. And even after I became an author myself, there was Archer Lincoln from my Men Of Sentinel Security novels. A character that has been with me since before I even penned his story.

And for many of us there are the sexy Italians from Sienna Mynx’s Battaglia series or my favorite Doctor Saint Aknaten from Tiana Laveen’s Naughty Sins of the Saint novels. Wooo chile, let me tell you even though the series has long since come to an end, we’re still talking about the sexy doctor. But I think my all time favorite is the Brand clan from Maureen Smiths novels and if you’ve never read any of her books, you’re missing out because they are so good. The sexy man myself and my author friends write about keep the readers coming back for more.

Let me tell you there is nothing like a delicious hero to keep you turning the pages till the wee hours of the morning. And I have always been a reader and collector of books as my thousand or so physical books and three-thousand plus on my ereader can attest. So if you’re looking for a book boyfriend, find one because there’s plenty of them out there. Whether it’s a vampire, ghost, mob boss or enforcer, cowboy, doctor, lawyer or a man in a kilt, trust me they’re out there just waiting to be claimed. And while you’re doing it you’ll be supporting your favorite author. Until next time, where love resides-Temari

Listening to Your Inner Voice

Oftentimes we don’t listen to our inner voice, the one that leads us in the direction we should go, instead we do exact opposite and ultimately making a mess of the situation. You have to trust this in everyday situations and in life in general because it’s the one thing that will get you to exactly where you want to be. And trust me when I say, it will never steer you wrong.

I am reminded of the character Jiminy Cricket, the conscience of Pinocchio. The guidance that he needed whenever he was about to make bad decisions like latching himself onto the wrong crowd. And let’s not forget, good old Jonah, here was a man that was directed by God himself to go to one of the worst towns and tell them they needed to straighten up and fly right, but fear kept him from doing it, and he ultimately got punished for not doing it.

A lot of us don’t believe our inner voice knows what it’s talking about. But just let me say it most definitely does. Like Pinocchio it’s the guidance, the voice of caution as we need to go about our daily lives. So, if you’re reading this and are thinking of making a bold move and your inner voice is telling you to don’t rush into it so fast or to tread lightly in proceeding I think you should listen. That’s it for now, until next time. Where love resides-Temari

All You Need Is Love

There’s one thing I have learned over the year people will come and go from your life. But one thing that should remain constant is the love you have in your heart. I don’t hate anyone, I hate their actions towards me and others. For me when I meet a person, my reaction towards them would depend on how they treat me. I’ve always been good at reading people and I know right away whether or not I like them or just want to tolerate their presence. In the past few months people have decided they no longer want me in their circle, for one reason or another and that’s fine, because the amount of friends you have shouldn’t define who you are. I always make a point of treating others the way I want to be treated. But alas, it never works out that way, due to the fact that I don’t belong to a clique of club or fit into a particular mold. I’m just me, period. I love the Lord, I love my family and would go to bat for them no matter the circumstances. I’ve said this before, dozens of times and I will say it again. I don’t mind being alone. I came into this world alone and will leave it the same way. But I refuse to change to make a bunch of individuals feel comfortable. And if you have me in your circle, count yourself lucky because mine is rather small. I have no loyal fans, no people that recommend my work. My sales are poor, and I’m not on the bestseller list. And probably never will be. And I’m perfectly fine with that. The only thing that matters to me is that God allowed me to do what I love, and that’s good enough for me. That’s it for now, until next time. Where love resides-Temari

Being Me

I’ve never had a problem with knowing what I wanted and exactly where I expected to go, it’s just that lately there are been some opportunities that I thought would help me reach those points. Then I learned that making those moves would prevent me from doing the things that would help me grow as an author, so I put an end to it. Reason being they prevented me from being the person I wanted to be and I can’t abide by that. I’ve always been reasonable in certain situations but when you try to bully me or guilt me into making a move I’m neither comfortable with or ready for, I have to put the breaks on it.

I’m at the age where every decision has a consequence and one should tread lightly while doing them and not take anything for granted. I have a motto that I live by which is: Always have a plan, never leave your wellbeing in somebody else’s hands. No truer words have ever been spoken especially lately when I felt people didn’t have my best interest at heart and were only looking out for themselves. I have learned in my eight years in this business to always look out for number one or you’ll libel to step in number two. That’s it for now, until next time: Where love resides-Temari

I am

I am enough. I am full of sparkle and compassion. I genuinely want to make the world a better place. I love heard. I practice kindness. I am not afraid of the truth. I am loyal, adventurous, supportive and surprising. I am a weaver of stories. I am enough.

Starting Over

You’ll notice that things are looking a bit different, that’s because I am an independent author again. I realize I am better off on my own until I can find something that suits me. I admit, it’s daunting and freeing all at the same time, but I know this is what’s best for me and my peace of mind. I can’t abide by the antagonistic behavior I have experienced recently, I’m much too old for that.

Someone once said that we must find the courage to leave the table if respect is no longer being served, and that was most definitely the case. What you allow will most assuredly continue and I wasn’t going to not for one minute longer remain in that situation, so I left before I got even more mired in it. It’s just like I may have stated in a recent post, sometimes people pretend you’re a bad person so they don’t feel guilty about the things they did to you, and are much more than the things that have been done to you. And lastly my friends, do not trade your authenticity for approval. That’s it for now. Where love resides-Temari

Freedom Dance

It’s been a long hard road to get to where I am today, let me tell you. There was a lot of heartburn and heartache to reach this point. I don’t know about the rest of y’all but when you have someone’s thumb constantly on you and feel as though it’s stifling you and feel trapped, that was me.

A friend of mine recently made a comment that I was quote ‘cleaning out my closet’ to coin an Eminem phrase. Anywho, if you knew even half the story you’d understand the reason for this post. I didn’t like that feeling that loomed over me like an ominous presence that I couldn’t quite shake. But I had faith that the Most High above would deliver me from evil and he did and I am most grateful. To the person reading this, don’t let anything or anybody make you feel like you need them to be successful, you don’t. The only thing you need is God above and the faith that he will carry you through. That’s it for now, until next time; where love resides-Temari

Testing Ones Patience

Let me just say the one thing I dislike with a passion is when someone tests my patience. Last night that exact thing happened and I just want that person to know I did not appreciate it. Now back to what I was saying, I realize that oftentimes I lack patience with some areas but in this day in age where time is precious and of the essence, I don’t have time for a ‘pop up conversation.’ Do not ask me a question and then argue with me if I don’t respond the way you expect or provide the answer you are looking for. And just a reminder, I belong to no one, I answer to no one but God. And if I give you my time, it’s a privilege. Not an obligation.

My husband often says I need to work on my patience because I’m too eager to see things come into fruition. I agree, I do need to exercise it in everything I do, whether it’s planning my day or even accomplishing goals. But that’s something that will continue to be a work in progress as time goes by. In closing, the last two and a half years have been trying for yours truly and I am in the process of making some major changes in my career and it’s not easy, far from it and my lack of patience will rear its ugly head, it’s expected so do not be surprise if the snarky part of me appears during the interaction. That’s it for now, until next time, where love resides-Temari